Here kitty, kitty, kitty....Or maybe not!

Something really funny happened last night.

Ok. Maybe it wasn't 'funny/funny', but still. If I didn't have such a weird sense of humor, I would have probably handled it a whole lot different than I actually did.

At 3 am I was awakened by the sound of brother kitty growling like crazy in the hallway outside my bedroom door. I opened the door and he was sitting there, staring through the cat door into the laundry room. (Yes, I have a cat door. I have inside dogs and this was the best way I found to keep them out of the cat food and cat litter and for $20 at Petsmart, you really can't beat it.)

So, anyway, the cat was growling like crazy! I looked through the tiny doorway to see what was there, and noticed the neighbor's cat was in my laundry room! I made a noise at it, clapped my hands or something (Hey, it was 3 am, who can remember details like this...It's not like it was sex or something!) and it ran out the back door. I walked into the room, turned on the light, just to make sure that he was the only late night visitor we had, made sure the backdoor was closed this time, and then went back to bed.

But, the problem was, is that with all of Brother Kitty's growling and snarling, he scared his sister so bad that SHE started growling at HIM, cause HE was growling at HER, and this went on for the rest of the night!! I couldn't separate the two because of the litter box issue, so the rest of the night, I slept with ears open, making sure that neither attacked the other in all their growling and snarling at each other. It got so bad for a little while, that I actually got up with the spray bottle and sprayed him down so he'd take a time out from growling and snarling to groom himself! hahaha...I am nothing else if not resourceful sometimes!

This morning, he was in a better mood, but she is still mad at him. Whenever he gets near her, she growls at him...Guess this proves that it takes females longer to get over things than it does males.

Hopefully they will 'kiss' and makeup soon...This can only be funny for so long.

I have 3 kids sitting on my back deck watching the golf cart charge. Do they really think it will charge faster if they stare at it long enough? Sorta like a watched pot, I guess....


We got moved last weekend. I'm loving my new home but the old one is still getting on my nerves with the final cleaning, the kids still having some shit there and them never having time to "drive all the way over there" and clean it out. UGH...I tell ya, I could scream.


I've grocery shopped 2 times in 3 days. I think I finally have enough food that I don't have to leave the house for a long while. Except I have 3 appointments this coming week and 2 difference service people coming (phone installation Monday and garbage compactor repair on Friday) I'll never have a day to do nothing again.

Derreck is making new friends already. Both kids next door, a little girl aged 9 and a boy, aged 10 and also another boy across the street who is 10. They will all be in 5th grade this coming school year. It's great so far. We had some little girl jealousy drama yesterday, though. Who knew little girls were just that fucking evil. I'll have to sit and post it soon.

Mike has gone back to work. He actually was able to live here for 7 days before heading to Missouri yesterday morning. It was more than he thought he would, so it's ok. He'll be back one day....

The dogs are doing okay with the move; they haven't liked being able to be outside as much as they have been this week, however. I admit it, I've spoiled them rotten....I'm hoping they'll get used to their outside time sooner or later.

JJ (brother kitty) has really done the best with the change. He is way more sociable than I've ever seen. Jasmine, however, has shit on a towel left in the bathroom floor that was being used as a shower rug (til I find one I like) and she has also pissed in the living room floor. She does venture out of my room more than she ever has, so there is that.


Now I'm sitting here watching Real Housewives of NY wondering who in the HELL told this Contessa chic that she could sing and feeding my face. Jealous, much? HA!

Weekend re-cap...

My nephew and my brother came by to hang out Friday evening. About 9:00, my phone started blowing up with texts from the ex. He's pissed because of the child support thing. He just can't get it into his head that he has to PAY CHILD SUPPORT to help SUPPORT his children. He is so damn angry with me over this....Well, court is Thursday, buddy, so you better get a little bit 'not so pissed' and deal with it.

I swear, people like him (and his stupid wife) get on my damn nerves; always thinking the world revolves around them and their needs/wants. About time that someone or something gives him a fine dose of reality. (Oh, she finally got a job so she'll have money for her drugs; she's working at a Lenscrafters as an eyeglass sales person...whoooowheeee....Making the BIG MONEY now, bitch!!)

I bet he's going to be a 'much more pleasant' person to deal with after this week....I'm still going to save those text messages. Like Tiger figured out, you never know when those things will come back to haunt your ass.

Socializing Online Style

You know, it seems like every single time I get involved and interested in an Online Social Site, it goes to hell. Everyone was all Livejournal a few years ago..then (horrid MySpace), now it's Facebook and Twitter.

A lot of my Livejournal friends jumped ship, so to speak, for Facebook and have encouraged me to 'hang out' there as well. Problem is, is that they aren't really "there". I post things, no one says anything. No one really posts anything. It's all about the stupid Farmville and Mafia games. Not much of nothing else. I'm not interested in playing these games; if I was I'd had Sims installed and just play alone. I'm used to playing alone these days, thankyouverymuch. What I'm wondering is what's the big deal? I was encouraged to join..."We hang out here, it's so much fun" yadayadayada....and nothing. It's dead. God knows, I'd like some interaction when I spend my time writing something that I share with others.

Twitter is wild, but will never be the place I'm searching for to purge my thoughts, feelings or happenings during the day. Twitter is nothing more than what it is- Twitterings of the Twittered. (Even if I am horrifically addicted to it).

So what do I do, Imaginary People Who May Come Across This Blog and Read It One Day?

I'm confused and wondering if it's just time to give up my online life altogether and find real friends to spend time on the patio talking to.

Another reason to 'hate' April 15th...

Received my papers in the mail over the weekend showing that the court hearing is scheduled for April 15th. And I'm nervous as hell....

My greatest fear is that he fights me to regain custody. I know the only reason would be so he didn't have to pay child support (I'd have to pay him again)...His wife hates my kids and even refuses to watch Lil D while he works...But I think she'd suck it up to not have to pay money each month. They both, obviously, think they don't have to help take care of these boys...Der has been living here since last June and he's only given $500 and that was for school clothes and school supplies last July. He hasn't even attempted to give anything else. Always had the excuse that he wasn't working....I know that he's worked the entire time....I just don't understand people like that. Sad when he's let another man take care of his kids for so long and hasn't even bothered to send anything....nothing....Hell, $20 would have been him making an effort...When I'd ask him to send something, he would tell me that he wasn't working and that he'd try to send something soon....But nothing ever came.

*Shrug*

Maybe the judge will ask him why. That's what I want to know...Then he'll sit there and lie, saying that he hasn't been working and didn't have anymoney. I know it's a lie, he knows it will be a lie....But, then again, he's a narcissist so maybe he won't realize he's lying. He does have a way of convincing himself of his own version of the weird truth when it suits him. I'm sure this is part of that, too.

Still a damn shame though.


Thankfully, I have a very good attorney and that helps keep my anxiety down a notch or two...without her, I'd be a nervous damn wreck instead of just a nervous wreck.

I just wish people could do the right thing. Does he really think that's what he's been doing? He actually told me that he was glad I was going after him for child support now because he isn't making very much money...Can you believe that shit? It's his kids...not me...his kids.....the money is to take care of his kids.

I just don't get it and probably never will but I can't seem to stop myself from trying to figure it out.

When we last left our heroine....

she was awaiting the news that the baby's daddy had been served his legal papers for court. Well, it has taken 3 damn months, but it finally happened 3 weeks ago. He wasn't very happy about it, either, and sent me some not-so-nice text messages, but he'll get over it. Of course, I don't think he's filled them out and sent them back to my attorney like he was supposed to because I haven't heard from my attorney about a date for court yet. Let him bury himself and not do it like he's supposed to...I bet he lost them anyway....Shows how much he cares....Which is not at all.

He finally moved back locally after the first of the year...Started working at his old job....But still not helping me out with the boys at all. Not sure what he thinks is supposes to happen here but it's sure not this. "Let him explain his behavior to the judge" is what I keep playing over and over in my head when I want to go fireball his fucking car or something. This so isn't fair and I'm hoping beyond hope that someone fixes this situation....

We are still working on the house renovations; getting closer to being finished and have set a tentative move-in date of the first week of June! I am so excited! It has turned out so much better than I thought it would and I cannot wait to get moved in and all settled!

I'll try to get some pictures posted soon so you guys can see it; it really is beautiful!

Oh...And I'm going to start posting more here. I know that I've kind of let this go by the way-side for the past few months, but I'm being to think that it would be a good idea to write here more...I kind of need an outlet these days.....

As of this morning, I have emailed all the contact information that I have for Ray concerning this custody suit to my attorney. I am hoping that, since I requested him to be served at work (that will be the most reliable way), that he will not be able to avoid it like he has before. I am really tired of this and feel, since it's been 6 months and he has had plenty of time to get settled and get on his feet, that he needs to be more proactive in supporting his kids.

I'm really hoping that this doesn't backfire in Lil D's face when/if he goes back to visit them for part of his Christmas break. I'm worried that Jae will figure out that HE was the one who gave me the information that I have and will be mean to him because of it. I plan on telling him that if she mentions it to him, to deny telling me anything. I'd rather have him lie to them than her knowing the truth and making his life miserable. But then again, if he is served over the next couple of weeks, they will realize that it's just paperwork requesting some financial information that my attorney needs for the judge to determine the amount of child support that he will have to pay. It's not a summons for court; we aren't quite there yet (unless they have some sort of hearing to give me temporary support until the judge makes his final decision after everything is completed). There are just so many steps in this custody process and it's all so damn confusing. I guess all the confusion makes me glad that I have the type of attorney who is a "One thing at a time" person.

But who knows? I'm just waiting on them to let me know that he's finally been served. Then I can breathe again.